Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby. Let’s Talk About . . . ME



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Sex has always been a topic that has enthralled me. While a virgin, I made sure everyone was aware that I had chosen to save myself for marriage. Despite my physical purity, I read erotica novels and loved listening to stories about my peers’ sexcapades. So, although I chose not to have sex while my friends bragged about how great it was, I could have authored a series of sex novels.

I waited to have sex simply because I was told that was what good Christians did. I was also afraid of getting pregnant. My mother was a teen mom and she made sure that I would not repeat her mistakes. My mother believed that if she, the quiet and reserved daughter, could become pregnant as a teenager, there was no doubt that I, the talkative and outgoing daughter, would as well. Ultimately, I remained a virgin because that is what was expected of me. Yes, it is really as simple as that. No, I did not stay a virgin because I believed that it was pleasing to God. I stayed a virgin because I wanted to appear to be perfect; it was all a facade. I felt pressured to be the perfect daughter, the perfect granddaughter, the perfect older sister, the perfect cousin, the perfect student, the perfect dancer, the perfect athlete, the perfect bastard child born to a teenage girl. Then one day I decided to rebel against those expectations and told my boyfriend (he was not my first boyfriend), who was not a virgin, that I was finally ready to lose my virginity. I wish that I could say that I loved him but I did not. Soon after, my family moved to another state. Let me clarify, the move was not a surprise to me. I felt free enough to rebel and have sex because I knew that I was going to move and would not have to deal with the consequences. WOW! Wasn’t I a manipulative coward.

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Jesus and Tea: Bible Study


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I’ve often been asked, “how do you hear God’s voice?” My theory is that we all hear God’s voice, the problem is that some do not recognize His voice and others do not know how to discern what God is trying to communicate. I learned to familiarize myself with God’s voice by familiarizing myself with His written word.

I am not a Bible expert, however, I have personal experience with diving into the Word of God and I practice daily obedience. It is out of obedience that this Bible study is being launched. Remember “Pray. Strategize. Produce” ? Well, I prayed and then prayed again (because Lord knows I needed guidance and I wanted to make sure that this is what God wants me to do during this season because I did not feel qualified); wrote down a strategy and prayed some more; produced; and now, you the public will have the opportunity to enjoy the fruit of that process.

The purpose of Freedom Untainted’s Jesus and Tea: Bible Study is to create disciples (Matthew 28:19) by intentionally equipping people with the word of God. This will be a safe place to learn and ask questions. God has not limited the understanding of His written word to preachers and biblical scholars, but wishes that we all engage for deeper understanding.